Valentine’s Day Thumbs Up or Down?

Sometimes Valentine’s Day stinks.  My father’s birthday was Valentine’s Day.  The first few Valentine Days after he died, everyone (the whole wide world) was celebrating love and I could only be reminded of my loss.   In the years my first marriage deteriorated, I was alone, hurting and carried a burden of failure…grieving over so very much, but mostly not being able to give my children the home I desired them to have.  Valentine’s Day really stunk then and I hated it.  I even said so out loud to a wise older gal at choir as I hugged her.  She said, “No you don’t”…well, I was pretty sure I did!  She slipped a small home-made card into my hand that said, “I love you”….reminding me in my mess…that I was lovable.

One of the problems with Valentine’s Day is finding the right ‘fit’…in both good times and bad.  Our media makes it look ‘one way’, grand, romantic and expensive, if you are going to do it ‘right’.  I am grateful this year for being in a space that is the right ‘fit’ for me…

…and I found the perfect Valentine card for My Loving Spouse

…even if I did have to modify it just a tad.

I want to make sure I give full credit to the creative folks who designed this card…and because I like how the cow’s tail end gets into the picture.So…Happy Valentine’s day to you, may there be laughter in your love and hope in your sorrow.